If you think your child may have been sexually abused:-
- Listen
to your child. Your child may
feel scared, embarrassed or fear that the abuse was his or her fault. The
abuser may have threatened to hurt you if the child tells. Reassure your
child that he or she is safe with you and that telling the truth is the
right thing to do.
- Make
sure your child knows that you are not mad at him or her. You may be mad
about what has happened, but your child needs to feel your support.
- Report
the abuse. Sexual abuse
almost always continues unless someone steps in to stop it. Even if it is
someone in the family or at school or in your religous institution, you
need to report it. If you need help to do this, call the child abuse
hotline in your area
Talk to your child
Give your
child the facts about keeping their bodies safe. Even small children need to
know. Children who know the facts about sexual abuse will know that it is wrong
for someone to touch them in a sexual way. This
helps them stay safe when you are not around. What you
need to tell your child Safety is a lesson that starts when your
children are young. Little by little, children learn to cross the street,
to stay away from poisons or what to do if there is a fire. Learning about
different kinds of touching is an important safety lesson, too.
- Safe
touches - These are
touches that are safe and good, such as holding hands during a game or
hugs and kisses by a parent or grandparent.
- Unsafe
touches - These are
touches that are unsafe and bad, such as hitting, kicking or other
touching that hurts your body.
- Confusing
touches - These are
touches that might feel good or not hurt. Children sometimes are not sure
if this type of touching is safe or not. An example of this is a
babysitter or a coach wanting to shower and scrub with a child or student
under their care.
- Sexual
touch - This includes
the child being asked, forced or tricked into touching the adult’s sex
organs in any way or the adult touching the child’s private parts or body
in a sexual way.
"Your
child needs to know that they have the right to keep their bodies private."
Sexual touches can also be confusing touches. Tell
them about sexual abuse. Your child needs to know that they have the right to
keep their bodies private. This means they have the right to not be tricked or
forced into having any type of sexual contact with anyone. This can be
confusing for a child.
Sometimes
parents or others encourage children to hug or kiss another grownup. An example
of this is a parent saying, “Don’t
hurt Aunt Sophie’s feelings. Kiss her goodbye.” Children
need to know that they can say “no” when they don’t want to be touched.
Make sure your child knows to tell anyone that touches them in a
bad or confusing way to stop. Children should also know
to tell a grownup they trust if anyone tries to trick or force them to have
sexual contact. Let your child know that it is always OK to tell you anything
about sexual abuse or bad touches. Even if
it makes you feel uncomfortable, children need to know that you will always
listen to them. And,
while children do make up stories at times, children
rarely lie about sexual abuse.
When you
talk to your child:
- Try
to use real names for body parts, such as penis or breast, instead
of slang words.
- Don’t
try to scare your children. Be sure they
know about good touching as well as bad touching.
- Be
open to questions from your children. If you don’t know the answer,
find out the answer and let them know.
- Help
your child think of people they can trust and go to if they need help. This could
include parents, friends, family friends, church leaders and teachers
Tricking or forcing a child to have sex or sexual contact is child sexual abuse.
Most sexually abused children are abused by someone they know. This can be a family friend, baby sitter or relative. Adults who sexually abuse children often do so in a way that makes the child think it was his or her fault. A person who sexually abuses children needs outside help. Reporting that person is the first step to getting that help.
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